No interest in dating after divorce
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If there were major failings in the woman, why did he choose her and what about himself allowed him to stay?
Of course violence is not the most common response to the loss of a relationship but we are all familiar with the many other coping strategies that are less than helpful.Anger also interferes with the ability to adapt and grow.To form good relationships men need to learn from the relationship that is ending. In what way can he be a better husband or boyfriend in the future.Almost every week there is a story somewhere in the media of a man who has taken the life of a partner who has rejected him.All too often children are also the victims of these tragic events.A man who is losing his partner will feel out of control of his life.
Anger can be a tool to regain power, punishing with words and deeds the person who seems to be causing the pain. “She cheated on me, she was always drinking, she was a lousy wife/mother/sister.” We have all heard these howls from our friends who are separated.Many people are surprised to learn that a majority of divorces are initiated by women. The fact that men are deeply affected by divorce, especially if they did not choose that solution, is not hard to understand.Myths persist that men are less in need of the comfort and support that a stable relationship provides but this is not the case.Another way that men use their anger to feel powerful is to punish the departing partner by damaging her reputation, reporting long kept secrets or complaints, attempting to diminish her to her friends, family and community.Men who deal with separation with intense anger often pay a high price for using such a destructive and ultimately ineffective coping mechanism.While the culture is changing, it is still less acceptable for men to admit to feelings of fear, helplessness, sadness, grief and anxiety.